Matthew 7:12 “Therefore, however you want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law and the Prophets”.
How Do You Get Respect from Your Horse?
Think about this, how would someone go about getting your respect? What would it take for someone to respect you? Where would they need to begin?
There are many ways to get respect, and many ingredients that go into it. To get respect from your horse, believe it or not, you have to earn it. You cannot demand it. Same is with the human population. You cannot demand respect, you have to earn it. You may bully yourself around, but that only works for so long and then you are an outcast without friends except those who tolerate you. Demanding respect from your horse is a sure fire way of getting yourself hurt.
The Best way to gain, get, and earn respect from your horse, is to become the leader. I have mentioned this many many times because it’s that important. You must learn how to become the leader for your horse. Being a leader is NOT being a boss. There are enough of those to go around. Don’t confuse respect and fear. There is a difference and you have to know how to see it.
Being a leader takes many forms; one is, never allow your horse in your space but you can go into his. Being a leader is telling him when he can do something, such as eat. And when he eats, ‘Leave him alone’. That is his alone time. Get out of his space. When he is eating and you are with him that is a respect destroyer. Leave him alone!
Another clue to gaining respect from your horse; help him to understand what you want. Don’t demand what you want. Teach him slowly. When he understands and does what you want, STOP ASKING. Know that, when a horse tries you have to stop. Reward him be allowing him to stand, quietly. Don’t go up and rub him and say ‘Thata Boy’ and stuff like that. Let him think. Leave him alone. You are interrupting his thought process when you do that. Just simply leave him alone and if it is ground work, turn away from him and take off the pressure. Stop starring at him. When you do this he will begin to feel more confident around you. When he feels confident around you, he will have more respect for you.
You are actually teaching your horse, some call it educating your horse.
Next is proving to them they can trust you. You have to prove you are the leader and you will take care of them.
To help your horse understand, you have to educate them. For example, if you want to teach them to stop, you have to stop yourself first and then give them the physical cue. This is kind of hard to explain in type but I will try. To begin to teach your horse to stop, you must stop riding first. What I mean by that is to begin to relax in the saddle before you ask with the reins. There is more to this I may cover at a later time.
The last thing here is, feel. Feel, timing, balance and release. Feel is hard to convey to you but it is lightness. It is lightness from within. Timing is releasing at the correct time. It is very critical you get this. Balance is knowing how much or how little pressure to apply. Less is more. If you want your horse to be light, begin as light as possible then go as firm a necessary but always release at the right time. Be more ready to release than to add. That goes back to feel. Feel for your horse’s response. Don’t be rough handed or have the stupid make syndrome. Don’t demand, if you demand you will lose the respect you are trying to get.
Remember, to get respect you must also give respect…….